2021.09.25 21:18 BigWhaleOfficial Does anyone here miss blasting some Van Halen in a 1978 Z28 Camaro by the beach with a brunette with big juicy torpedos in a wet t shirt in the passenger seat holding a nice cold case of heinekens while you’re smoking a beautiful cigar with enough cash in the back to bail you guys outta jail?
2021.09.25 21:18 ImRevv Method for 99 Fletching on an Ironman?
Hi all, was looking for what methods are commonly used to reach 99 Fletching on an Ironman.
I've currently got 74, and have heard the methods of setting Miscellania to get Maples for Arrow Shafts for Broad Arrows or Just using those maples for Longbows. What is the meta, whats actuallly good?
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2021.09.25 21:18 prawnbiryani 💗☁🍦🌸🧁🤍🦩
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2021.09.25 21:18 Lmanwell23 If this was a movie what will it be called
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2021.09.25 21:18 ProlapsedGape [US-WI] (h) Pyramid of Light (MOV-EN004) MISPRINT (w) information/knowledge
I have this card and it has a misspelled word towards the end of the description. When spelling “field” on the card it is spelt “foeld”. If you don’t know what the description of the cards ability is please look it up because I can’t post pictures of the card on this sub I guess. I looked all over online and wasn’t able to find any piece of information saying someone else has a card like this. This post didn’t seem to fit the other yu-gi-oh subreddit so I’m trying to get answers here. Happy dueling brothers and sisters!
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2021.09.25 21:18 Ninjahitman19 Trying to grow as much as possible!
Hey everyone! Just trying to grow as much as possible. Swing by the stream and hangout for a bit! Im streaming a bit of everything. FPS games, horror games, story mode games, whatever the vibes are! Come be the start of my community!
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2021.09.25 21:18 Reputila Greek Mythology
I played Hades for around 15 hours now and I'm starting to get really invested into all the different god's, their stories and especially their relationships to each other to the point where I'd love to read/listen/watch more of the Greek mythology to get a better understanding.
Do you have any tips on where I could learn about Greek mythology? YouTube channels, podcasts, documentaries,... You name it. I'm open for any kind of media, I just don't really know how to look for that stuff.
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2021.09.25 21:18 l-bymylonely-l Thought on this Accord?
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2021.09.25 21:18 blackjack21344 Slow ethernet speed?
Basically the title. Have had my pc registered on their website for a while, but only get 23 Mbps download from tests and 11 Mbps downloads on steam. I’ve heard from others that we have pretty damn good wired speeds here, any ideas as to why mines not the case?
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2021.09.25 21:18 sword772 In the east nothing new 👍🚀
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2021.09.25 21:18 AyePhonz Drake shares one of his SECRETS to long term success 💎
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2021.09.25 21:18 Phlutterby9 Um I think this a response Kristin lol
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2021.09.25 21:18 GlamCam If not Strawhat Pirates, what do you think will suit as the name of Luffy's pirate crew?
2021.09.25 21:18 DifficultResponse88 Diversification
I’ve been using this tool to compare the correlation between two funds: https://www.macroaxis.com/invest/market/VOO--compareProfile--VWO
Comparing VOO to VXUS, VOO to AGG, it’s very weak diversification. The only decent combo was VOO and VWO. So when we do a 3 fund portfolio, are we really diversified with VOO, VXUS, and AGG or BND?
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2021.09.25 21:18 Retarded_boi69 Age requirement
2021.09.25 21:18 PatrickEPhoto A few summers ago in Chicago.
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2021.09.25 21:18 fartparticles This is my artwork for The Maethtro album “Appendix”, 2021
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2021.09.25 21:18 LaconicalAudio Noise cancelling headphones with simultaneous conncetions. Including cable.
I'd like to have a decent noise cancelling headset that can take calls connected to a 3.5mm jack connected to my work PC (Blutooth and USB not allowed, audio cable is)
I'd also like to be able to connect to my phone via blutooth and listen to music and podcasts.
I'm allowed to listen to music etc. But not allowed to stream or store it on the work laptop.
I was looking at the WH-1000XM4 with a boom mic, but as far as I'm aware you can't conncect the cable at the same time as blutooth. Blutooth gets disabled when you plug the cable in.
Worse, the headphones apparently switch themselves off when you unplug the cable instead of switching back to blutooth.
I don't even need to hear both connections at the same time.
I'll be happy to switch between them with a button or switch, but I don't want to have to unplug the cable, because I'd be doing it frequently and always in a hurry.
If it was just a case of plugging the mic in and out of the headphones switching it between wired and blutooth I might live with it, and maybe get enough practise in it's not a hassle.
But if I'm going to have to turn things on and off constantly too I'd rather not have spent the money to irritate myself further every time I get a call.
Is there anything out there that does what I want? Connects to blutooth atpx HD or LDAP and a cable and can switch between them easily?
Can someone think of a better way of doing things than I've thought of?
Does anyone have a pair of the Sonys and am I right about how the Sony's behave when switching inputs?
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2021.09.25 21:18 hannabeckah This is it, right?
So, here we are. 22 days post D-day. Pretty sure I just got the sign my efforts of reconciliation are pointless. This is looooooooong, so thanks if you get through it. If not, it was therapeutic writing it.
My husband and I moved to a new city at the beginning of May. The catalyst was our landlord selling the house we were living in, but that really just moved our plans up by a couple months. We were excited about the opportunities that this move would open up - especially as it related to his career. He was an owner operator of a semi truck, and ran flatbed or dry van loads. He had been driving an average of an hour and a half to pick up a load and this move would almost completely eliminate that. I was able to easily get a job in my field making comparable pay.
Around mid-June, the truck broke down. It had always been a junker, so it wasn't surprising, but definitely meant we had to figure stuff out. We used all our capital and credit (and then some) to get the truck, and spent buckets and buckets fixing it throughout the year and some months we had it. Buying another truck was out of the question. We decided that the best course of action was for him to get a company job driving trucks. Good pay, stable schedule, used his skills. He agreed, and started looking.
By mid-July he hadn't found anything, and after a minor setback in the job search, a "golden opportunity" fell in his lap. He has a buddy up north who has a pot farm with LOADS of green. He was offered ten pounds up front. I tenuously agreed to let it happen - we needed the money, and he said he was going to continue looking for a real job. A week later, he's given up on the job search completely. I was nervous from the start about him getting into this business. It's shady by it's very nature, and opens the door to sooooooo many bad things. I mention this, but he assures me it's all gonna be fine. This isn't a long-term solution, and it's all for us. He says that a lot - that everything he does is for US, so I don't have any right to get upset about the consequences of his pursuits. It doesn't matter that he's constantly on his phone, browsing social media - i mean, why should I get upset about him being on his phone during dinner when he's "working" for US? Anything I bring up that shows unhappiness with his actions translates to me NOT caring about us. Whatever. I am very honest and communicative about my feelings regarding his business.
The month of August actually went pretty smoothly, considering. I HATE having typed that line, because of how completely wrong it is. He was decently successful - financially - with his business. We set up an end-date (my rules, and something I had to bring up more than once). School started for my son, we were actually getting settled into our new lives. There were some red flags (starting Aug 10), but I pushed them aside. We've had our issues in the past, and I wasn't trying to stir the pot. Our 3-year wedding anniversary is Aug. 25, so we plan an awesome weekend for the 28th and 29th, with a hotel and a spa and a nice dinner. We go shopping on the 27 for our weekend outfits.
September 1st or so I can't do it anymore. I can't handle the suspicions and the fear. I ask my husband for his Reddit password, using some lame excuse about wanting to see how he operates his business. He calls me childish and sends me screenshots of his business dealings. He's told me time and time again it's all business related. There's nothing to find. He's too busy focusing on getting his family right to mess around or search for anything outside of us. He's assured me I don't have to worry, and gives me leave to sign in.
I find messages in his Reddit account. He's hitting up women with the intention of selling them weed. There are comments thrown in about how much he likes their nudes, or how hot their posts are. These are mixed in with a bunch of "real" business stuff. There's a message in there from a chick he solicited for her onlyfans. We've talked about onlyfans. Recently. He maintained that he had never visited the site. Okay, cool. So, if I try and login with your email....there shouldn't be anything, right? Crazy how not only is there an account, but he has PAID a woman to subscribe to her channel! Lovely.
Upon confrontation he is pissed. Annoyed. Stalks out of the room. I leave for work. It's September 3rd, midnight-thirty or so. I work nights, at a corrugated sheet manufacturing plant. Heavy machinery, things that will eat you if you're not paying attention. I'm totally distracted. He tells me he's sorry he gives in to these shameful temptations, and sorry he's too embarrassed to own up to it. I ask for his FB password - something he has kept private because he "doesn't want to feel like I'm his parole officer" (never mind that i have legitimate reasons for doubting his fidelity, even before this). When I log in, I find a message from him to his ex of FIVE YEARS. The woman he had been dating before me. The woman he hadn't fully gotten over when he and I started talking, but had since assured me he was completely done with....and I believed him, because I saw the messages he sent her. They were awful. Despicable. Mean. Apparently that didn't matter, though, because he had reached out to her several times over the years. Most of them were "innocent": "Hey, I've got cats now. Remember you said I'd like them?" The last message to her (sent in March of this year!!) told her she made his heart quiver, and he regretted ever lying to her.
I message him a screenshot of the conversation. He minimizes it - it means nothing, he doesn't really want her i mean look how weak that attempt was, i should know that if he actually wanted something he would go after it so this message was nothing, he loves ME! Yes, he does some dumb shit in the dark (his words) but it's not because he doesn't love me. It's not a big deal. I bring up the onlyfans issue. His response is that he's sorry he likes to jack off to pictures of other women; pictures acquired from means other than pornhub. "it's not something I like to talk about. I wish it was something that could remain private. Like, I wish my choice of porn could remain private as it's not something that i'm comfortable talking about with you - or anyone about."
His next messages are about why it matters. Has he been neglecting me? Has he not been telling me he loves me? Why am I so adamant about finding out his dark secrets? Haven't we been having fun? How can I ignore all the good that has been going on to focus on this insignificant stuff?
I leave work early, Drive home. Husband is asleep in bed. I take his phone. Snoop. Oh. My. Goodness. There is soooooo much more. He has a whole FB account that he used just to solicit women (at least a dozen) for nudes, sexy conversations, AND! he invited a woman to the house two days after our anniversary weekend. He's got a text message thread with some chick from our old area that he "fucking loves", and sends him nudes. It all started Aug. 2 (I think). Lasted until I found out.
Confrontation didn't go well. His initial reaction was anger, then a lot of negativity about our ability to get over this, and how sucky he is and how I'll never be happy with him. I am the one to keep us together. I ask him not to leave, and tell him we can get through this. We love each other, right? Throughout our whole relationship, that has been the unquestionable truth. He agrees. Says he doesn't know how to fix this. I tell him right then and there that I need to be made the priority in his life. That our relationship needs to take front and center. That I need to know he wants me, and wants to be with me. He's always had something else going on outside of "us". His business, his music, his ideas. There has never been a grand romantic gesture. We don't even have real wedding rings - i sometimes wear one I bought from Wish. There have been so many birthdays, anniversaries, valentines days that go without notice. I just want to feel special. Obviously, it's stuff like stopping the negative behaviors as well. He agrees to be open and honest about his business and interactions and everything. Throughout the day I ask questions about his interactions with women. He tells me he also had conversations with his other ex, for about three days. Later that day, I ask him to block that chick's number. He does. I send him a link to affairrecovery.com and their affair analyzer thing. He does it, but won't do any more on the site because he "was turned off by the commercial aspect of it." Then, he asks if I needed infidelity help too, or if he was alone as the cheater. I was unfaithful two years ago. Long story short, we were at a sex club and I was intimate with a male without my husband being present or aware. It was one of the worst nights of my life. Recovering from that was a nightmare. I have put a lot of effort into our relationship and making amends and showing the genuine remorse that I feel. It's been interesting, actually, because he has brought that up so many times in the last couple weeks. "Oh yeah, what did YOU do to fix us?" Followed by, "Oh yeah, you did.....". I changed my LIFE after what I did. I reassure him that the infidelity help was for both of us.
I ask him to clean up his Reddit. He had subscribed to all sorts of sexual subreddits, and followed a ton of female sex models. His response was for me to do it, "because I feel like you'll feel better knowing that everything YOU want gone is gone." I explain that I'll feel better seeing that he is willing to delete and remove anything that is damaging to our relationship. He tells me not to send him on quests when there are practical solutions to what it is that I want. I reinforce that what I want isn't for his Reddit to be perfectly curated. I want him to show that he's willing to put the effort into making things better. He says okay.
The weekend following DDay is weird. We're basically normal, except not. It's Labor Day weekend. We keep our scheduled plans - 6 Flags on Saturday, Chevelle concert on Sunday, family day Monday. He acts like he went to the concert alone. I dressed up and looked SMOKING, and he barely acknowledges me the whole time we're there. It's my son's first Chevelle concert (we're huge fans, as a family) and he doesn't even take the time to interact with him at all. I get it, after the fact. Looking back on it. He needed a break from everything, and the concert was a great escape.
The next day, his business goes south. I try and help him with his problem, and suggest it's a good time to get out of the business.
Three days later, I wake up alone. The house is empty. I'm panicking - did he leave me? What's going on? I try calling, and it just rings and rings. I eventually notice his phone is plugged in by the bed, so it's clear he'll be back and it's nothing crazy. Still, though, I wasn't feeling particularly bubbly that morning. I use the opportunity left me by the unattended phone to snoop again. Mind you, not once has he offered his phone up unasked for or been upfront about his conversations without me having to pry. I don't find anything super wrong - just visits to escort sites to sell weed. That he didn't tell me about. That's the crux of it. He didn't say anything about going on prostitute sites to market his product. It's already a shady venture, but then not to mention it? Ughh!!!! I'm trying not to freak, though. I plan on letting him know that THAT is exactly the kind of thing I should be kept in the loop about, and that while it might be "innocent" the innocence is lost with the secrecy. I start off by mentioning how disconcerting it was waking up alone. His response is patronizing and condescending and makes me feel pathetic. Instant rage reaction, and I BLOW UP about the websites. Turns into a massive fight with him trying to leave, again.
September 7, I message him about my birthday. I turned 30 on September 10. It's kind of a big one. Not only is it a decade year, I've been waiting for 30 for two years. My husband and I want to have a baby, but we wanted to wait until our life was right. With the understanding that getting our life "right enough for a baby" might not happen until my eggs are dead, we agreed that we would start trying when I turned 30 either way. I've been waiting. Impatiently. Hating every backslide in our lives that kept me from getting pregnant, but knowing that if I just stuck it out until 30, we'd make it work. I mean, our lives have never been upside down - our bills get paid, our house isn't TRASHED, etc. In fact, we live a pretty decent middle class life. It's not like I'm saying we're having a baby even through the apocalypse or us living in a homeless shelter or anything. Now, though, that is GONE. GONE GONE GONE. I've cried about that just as much as the betrayal and the feelings of not being wanted. I can't have a child with this guy..... not now. This birthday was already going to be hard and sucky because of the letdown of not being able to stop my BC pills. There was still a chance, though, that it could be SOMETHING. I even kinda figured, like, there's NO WAY he could mess this up because it's such a perfect opportunity for a grand gesture. When I suggest a plan for my birthday weekend, though, he says he's sorry but he hasn't really been in celebratory mode. He doesn't wanna ruin my birthday, but he doesn't have any plans. Fine. He says he "at least wants to take me out for a steak". He just wants to be able to laugh with me again.
Since I confronted him about his infidelity, his focus in life shifted. He discovered he has a passion for videography, and started learning all he could about it. He spent hours watching videos talking about shutter speed and frame rate, and sharing all this cool new stuff with me.
My birthday arrives. Friday, September 10. I'm at work until 7am, but I get a text from my husband at 6 telling me happy birthday. That was the extent of the recognition of my birthday.
I mention that I expect something for my birthday. SOMETHING. that he doesn't have to spend money, that it doesn't have to be a material possession. He says he was GOING TO....
Since the confrontation we've talked about therapy several times. I have depression, and have seen a therapist a couple times during our relationship. I've been on anti-depressants and mood stabilizers. He has been on board with therapy. Not eager, not taking the initiative, but in agreement every time it comes up. I have started the process of getting my own therapist. I've gone to my insurance website and found several doctors that might work for me. I've reached out to a couple, but haven't pulled the trigger.
September 12 I ask if he's cleaned up his Reddit. He says he thought I was going to. *eyeroll* Cue screenshots of previous conversation. He says it's almost done. I ask about his FB accounts. He says he deleted the account used for his business and solicitation. He still has his other two accounts. A couple hours later I ask if he finished with his Reddit. "Oh, no. I gotta go and unfollow some users too. I just thought about that." When I get home, I ask again about his Reddit. That's when he is DONE responding civilly to me and tells me if I want it clean to do it myself. He's not going to jump through these hoops when all I have to do is log on and take care of it myself. I don't like it? Delete it! He doesn't care!
September 13 we go to dinner "for my birthday". After running an errand to the bank, he says he's cool if I want to go somewhere for food. I end up finding a place nearby. I'm in my slippers. He doesn't even tell the waiter it's my birthday. I can't be disappointed, though, or show anything less than pure appreciation for this splendid offering, or I'm never satisfied and I'm asking for too much and he's doing his best.
That night I share information about therapists I've reached out to. That night, my husband acts remorseful. He apologizes for hurting me. Acknowledges he needs to find a better way to confront his guilt and shame than by blowing up at me or storming off. He says he's going to do the work. Admits he sometimes treats me poorly because of past views of who I was, and not based on who I am now.
The next day I ask if he's found a therapist. He says he will make the #1 priority tomorrow.
Day after that, he brings up purchasing video equipment for his new hobby. I ask if we can put that off until we have a second source of income. He says cool. I ask if he found a therapist. He says no. I say it's good to see where his priorities are. He says goodnight.
Sept 16 he texts me he is going to intensify his job search efforts, and that it will be his number one priority. He hopes I understand what all that entails and understand WHY it has to be his number one priority for now. When I get home, I unload on him. I start by telling him that what I'm about to say is the hardest thing I've ever said. I give an ultimatum - he has a week to show me that he's sincere about our relationship surviving or we're going to separate. I spend an hour telling him that I don't want the job to be his priority, that IIIIIIII want to be his priority. That I would be happier with him having spent hours reading a book by my favorite author than hours on indeed. That he could spend his time planning a date for us, or A N Y T H I N G that showed he was thinking about me and us, instead of everything else. I mention that he STILL hasn't found a therapist. That's the point that gets him. Why am I so focused on the therapist thing? It must be about control, because otherwise I wouldn't keep asking about it. He's done plenty of other things to help us get through this and he's been doing his part to get better and he hasn't been engaging in bad behavior, so me harping on the therapist has to be just because I want to be the one deciding what he does now. I'm not seeing all the effort he has been putting in. At that point, I go cold. I'm sobbing in the closet with a blanket over my head and he's kneeling over me telling me that he's trying, that I just want control. I stand up, look him in the eyes, and break him down. I tell him it's about him not doing what he said he would do - AGAIN. Like always. That going to therapy, while extremely important, isn't the "thing" I think will fix us, and it's not about control. It's about him making promises and saying he is going to do things, and not following through. It's about me telling him my needs and him completely blowing them off. It's about his arrogance and his treatment of me since the confrontation. I think he actually gets it. He doesn't have a glib response or any kind of backtalk. He seems to internalize that we're in a crisis, that this isn't something he can just make flowery promises about and ignore. He spends the next little bit writing this paper about how he is the Devil - literally. He writes about how he's ruined every relationship he's ever had, from childhood to now. How he embodies all the most terrible aspects of evil and needs to drastically alter his thinking and behavior patterns. He reaches out to local Islamic centers and asks for help. He tells me he's willing to go to therapy, but it has to be a Muslim therapist because his issues are spiritual as well as mental. Cool. Whatever it takes. Do SOMETHING.
September 17 he makes a plan to go to a local masjid in two days for the evening prayer to meet a Brother who could possibly be helpful. By Saturday, the 18, he's got three job interviews set up. Saturday was a bad day. I spent most of the day crying, off and on. Everything was making me sad. My husband and I spent the day "together", but it was not really together. We were on the same bed, but we weren't touching. He was on his phone while we watched a show together. He ignored my mood and my tears, until the evening. When he asked me what was wrong, I told him I didn't want to tell him. I didn't want to hear about how my feelings were wrong, or how I was ungrateful, or that I was not focusing on the good. He told me he would listen without responding, and just be with me. I spilled. Basically, I wasn't feeling special. I wasn't seeing the work. I wasn't feeling like he was trying to help me heal. I told him about how worried I was about the job because of how much time and effort he was going to be spending on that, instead of me. I whine about how we haven't touched all day. He didn't respond.....until I was at work. It's exactly what I expected. He explains how his actions were above reproach, how he didn't do anything wrong. He says he's sorry I'm worried about the job, because it's all about keeping me in the lifestyle I'm accustomed to. Next part is about how I already had depression, so it's not JUST the sadness about the infidelity keeping me from being productive. When I dare mention that he - AGAIN - did exactly what he said he wouldn't do, I get an even longer, even meaner text about how I am really a hater because I don't want to see him happy. That my sadness isn't about what I said, and it's really about how I can't stand to see him becoming independent. That I just want to control him and keep him needing me. Here's the best part: He says "Look, I know I f*** up big time talking to those women the way I did. And for that, I fully accept whatever pain I have to feel from you for the pain that I've caused you. But outside of that, Hannah, I CAN NOT keep allowing my emotions to be drug up and down and up and down again because of your tremendous emotional fragility, ESPECIALLY when one of your triggers is my happiness." Goes on for a little bit more about how I shouldn't share my feelings if all they do is make him feel like S*** about getting a good job... I can't even respond. I'm still at work. Still trying to process. Still feeling so alone.
The night he's supposed to go to the masjid for the meeting comes. He sets his alarm for the wrong time. Doesn't go. Texts me a list of a bunch of different Islamic therapists in the area. Clearly didn't even look at the places he found, since one of them is for a guy named Dr. Islam and has nothing to do with religious therapy on his website.
September 21st, Tuesday. He has a job interview and lands the job.
Last night, I sent him a link to "affordable therapy options" in our area. That was his last excuse - we couldn't afford it. Without doing any research into the topic. His response was it seemed affordable, and that was it. I bring it up again, and he admits he didn't even look into pricing. Drops the topic again. I send him a link to affairrecovery.com and let him know I would appreciate him spending some time there. He ignores me and texts about other stuff, so I send it again. He signs up for the 7day bootcamp thing, and asks if I have an account. I do. He asks if I've done the bootcamp. I haven't. Now, here is the reason for this entire post. Up until now, he has been dragging his feet and making tiny progress and acting not awesome, but I've been able to look through a lens of understanding and try and be patient and as helpful as possible. Until now. Here is his last text to me, this morning, regarding therapy:
"Look, and I'm not trying to turn this into a fight AT ALL. Like, seriously, I'm just sharing my feelings, not trying to be mean even SLIGHTLY. But, I feel like all the pressure to seek psychological help/change is being put on me. I feel like you're focusing more on me getting therapy and help than you are yourself. It feels like it's a mission for you. But I don't see the same sense of urgency for you to work on yourself. Maybe it's there, but I just don't see it. But, it doesn't help motivate me (in fact it kinda works the opposite way) when I'm getting such a strong push from you to work on me, but watching you not really work on yourself. I'm not saying you have to get a therapist before I agree to get one. But it would certainly be a lot more motivating if you were at least further along in the process than me of acquiring one. I guess what I'm saying is that if you had a therapist (not even necessarily seeing them yet, but you had them picked out and it was agreed that this was gonna be your doctor) I suspect that would have a greater motivating effect than all the links you could ever send me."
"I really hope that didn't come across as mean, because I promise I not only wasn't trying to be mean, but was trying my hardest to be respectful while being honest"
Responded with a screenshot text from another conversation I'd had with a friend telling him about my efforts to secure a therapist for myself. Told him "I HAVE been doing this. I have been working on it. I have been researching costs and such. I've been looking."
"So, how close to you are selecting a therapist? Have you narrowed your choices down? Have you had any two way communication with any?"
I called him. He hung up.
"Didn't mean to hang up. But I don't want to fight Hannah. I don't understand why THIS issue is so important to you. Therapy is important TO YOU. That's YOUR solution to changing behavior. But it's not the only thing Hannah. My comments regarding myself were GENERAL statements that applied to my life, not just my relationship with you. So, any therapy that I seek will be first and foremost focused on issues that predated me meeting you. But, it seems that you care less about me getting better than you do about me being a good, compliant husband. If your only concern (therapy wise) is our marriage, then find us a marriage counselor and I'll go, no questions asked. But if your concern is my MENTAL health, then please, stop pushing me so hard for this, because Ii AM working on my mental health Hannah. I AM trying to be a better person. But because I'm not following your prescription of what you think will work (I guess because you assume it will work for you), it's like it doesn't matter. So what is it? Do you want ME to get better or do you just want our marriage to get better? Because if your primary focus is on me getting better, then let ME decide what is best for ME. If your primary focus is our marriage, then we can easily find a marriage therapist and start seeing them. Why you INSIST on me having a personal therapist - almost to the point of being hurt and even angry that I don't - makes no sense to me. It's like you're trying to force me to take a vaccine that I'm in no ruse to take because it'll make YOU feel better. But that ain't cool. You can go to therapy if you feel like that works for you. I will go to therapy when I feel it's appropriate. But I will tell you this: the more you push me, the more it sours me to the idea, because it wasn't my idea in the first place. It seemed like an ok idea at first, though, but more and more and more it's feeling less like you care about me being healthy than you do about simply having control over this decision for me."
There's where I'm at. He hasn't followed through with anything he said he would do for this relationship. He hasn't acted repentant. Why the heck am I still here? Am I missing something?
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2021.09.25 21:18 Bjornshire 19M Lacking worthwhile friends
I don’t mind an age difference, but I’d like to keep it within about five-six years. At that point, any semblance of similar interests or whatever are a bit of a stretch.
At my core, I’m quite the generic nerd. Y’know, video games, Yugioh, DnD sometimes, writing sometimes, etc. I don’t write much anymore but I still enjoy creating stories in my mind. Please don’t ask “what games do you play,” too much work. I can at least say that I’m not too fond of horror, racing, sports, those kinda genres (but I do like actual US football). I’m not, like.. against anime, but very rarely do I find an anime that actually gives me interest. I could go on and say that I think I’m very understanding and kind, but that just sounds like I have an ego, which I very much DON’T. But I do like letting people vent and feel like the have someone to confide in.
Going to college for graphic arts, but that stuff is very hard to talk about. I’d rather you don’t ask. I could also list a buncha little hobbies (reading, swimming, etc), but that’s kinda hard what with lack of motivation in general life. Easier to answer questions than sit here and scrounge up vague things.
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2021.09.25 21:18 Mansome_reddit New to PoOT have a few questions
My wife and I just started during the free trial. I think I am going to purchase this and the FoMT game as well. My question is since money is hard to come by in the beginning are there ways to get free items like those ingot maker and lumber makers? I don't want to make too many mistakes in the game with spending. But at the same time I don't want to hoard everything. I usually have a bad problem with hoarding in these kinds of games. What is ok to sell or get rid of, what should I be holding on to? Lastly is the dlc expansion pass just costumes?
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2021.09.25 21:18 mrpottermorefreak LimeDevil
2021.09.25 21:18 fourleaf_cloverr boxed bozo
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